Experience

If health is gone, everything is gone

If health is gone, everything is gone

Experience, Thoughts

A healthy body is as important as a healthy mind. I knew if health is gone, everything is gone. But I never thought I would realize this early on.

Okay, let’s step back here a moment. I am not dying or anything. It’s just that after the most recent spine injury, ( a compressed disk L5-S1) life has not been the same. First instant on August 2021 and a second time April 2022. Reduction in mobility is the most frustrating aspect of it. The constant pain when you stretch your hamstrings and the fear of re-occurrence is even more daunting. The occasional neck pains caused by the daily 8 hour stare at the computer screen.

As I am trying to revive myself by spending 1 hour everyday walking, another injury. It seems fate has got some other plans for me. One fine day, when I feel, I could push myself to try and jog, I injured my left knee. A mild cartilage tear probably (aka Meniscal strain). The meniscal strain in the knee has caused a complete evasion tendency to fetch of things below my waist. This, combined with my back injury is really annoying me, sucking the life out of me. Every time, I bend to fetch something, I fear that I’m damaging it more, or to say the least, slowing down my recovery.

Constantly zoning out, thinking about the times when I could run, jump and climb as effortlessly as I can. I’m getting this feeling that those days are gone. I really want to bounce back to a life of fearless mobility. Though life has not hit me hard, I certainly sense what it is capable of.

Introduction to Meditations (Week-1)

Introduction to Meditations (Week-1)

Experience, Meditations

This is not a post about what meditation is. It is about my personal experience with it.

Let’s be honest, we all thought the practice of meditation was something exquisite. I, for one, certainly thought so. I believed that it changes your paradigm of existence and let’s you experience something beyond the conventional reality that we all know of.

After several failed attempts spanning over several years starting from mid 20s, I have been finally able to practice meditation on a regular basis everyday. I have been using this app on my smart phone that provides guided meditation sessions and several podcast sessions from experts (philosophers, scientists, and more) on this domain.

After almost a week of practicing meditation (Introductory Course), I don’t feel that I have made any significant progress yet nor do I feel anything different. Such a bummer.! But at the same time, I feel as though there are these subtle states of experiences that I notice which I definitely did not have on day 1. To give some context, so far it has been only about focusing my attention or awareness onto an object. A sensory object such as a sound, or a physical feel (the weight of your own body or even an itch), or an object in the visual field. And you simply notice these objects without judgement. Of course, you start drifting away in thoughts. But thats okay. As soon as I realize it, I was guide to bring back my attention to the object I was focusing.

Today was different. The object of today’s session was a feeling. Anxiety was the feeling I was having at the time of meditation today. I don’t remember why I was feeling anxious. Anyway, it does not matter the background of that feeling, but the fact that I was trying to focus on the experience of anxiety itself. It was hard to focus and be aware of the feeling as it was unlike any other sensory object. It was bizarre trying to focus on the feeling on anxiety only because I was not sure where it was localized. I knew it was happening inside me but that wasn’t helpful. It was extremely challenging to focus on the location or origin of this feeling. Intuitively, you know its your mind generating this feeling. But we all know that that’s not the only place you feel it.

As I was trying to wrap my awareness and focus on the feeling of anxiety, it suddenly faded away. Poof !!! Vanished!!! There was a sudden onset of calm spreading over my novice mind, and before it could self-sustain, unfortunately, it vanished too. That’s okay. I was not prepared or agile to retain that state anyway. Thats the skills you gain after a week’s practice of meditations. Anyhow, I kind of freaked out and was thrown back to the experience of anxiety.

Now, was this any progress ? I am not quite certain about it. I consider myself having glimpsed into a world of possibilities. What I am confident about is that there are more such experiences waiting to happen if I keep persisting.

Cheers !

THE BIG DAY 😍 – PART-2 | WEDDING

THE BIG DAY 😍 – PART-2 | WEDDING

Events, Experience
https://youtube.com/watch?v=5tbRer7dQr8

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THE BIG DAY 😍 – PART-1 | RECEPTION

THE BIG DAY 😍 – PART-1 | RECEPTION

Events, Experience
https://youtube.com/watch?v=5tbRer7dQr8

The last couple of days were the most stressful that I have ever been in my life. Wedding gown, make-up, suit, Italian visa documents and million other wedding, pre-wedding, and post-wedding arrangements. Even on the eve of 28th, I was busy running around getting a document. Even at 1AM, mehandi session. Slept off at 2 AM and woke up at 5AM. The time was 1PM. We reached the venue, SVV Kalyana Madappam. The last couple of days were the most stressful that I have ever been in my life.

Wedding gown, make-up, suit, Italian visa documents and million other wedding, pre-wedding, and post-wedding arrangements. Even on the eve of 28th, I was busy running around getting a document. Even wedding arrangements. Even on the eve of 28th, I wedding arrangements. Even on the eve of 28th, I was busy running around getting a document. Even at 1AM, mehandi session. Slept off at 2 AM and woke up at 5AM. The time was 1PM. We reached the venue, SVV Kalyana Madappam.

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The Subsequent Meets

The Subsequent Meets

Events, Experience

The second meet – 22-Apr-2019 – Evoke 2.0 resto lounge, Velachery, Chennai. 🤩🤩

Choice is always hard. It is every harder when the food on the menu is a lengthy list of gibberish. We both were expecting the other to make a choice. Finally, it was Manoj on the blind folds and pointing the finger randomly while I ask him to stop. It was Potato wedges and a drink that we don’t even remember. some sort of mojito/crushers like the ones you get at McDonals’s or KFC. Two introverts trying to socialize. What a funny scene !

Our third meet – 26-Apr-2019 – Anjappar Hotel, Pallikaranai, Chennai 💗💗

I freaked out that the plan was to have the wedding in 2019. I had hoped for at least 2 years of gap between engagement and the wedding. Fear and tears brought along by the pressure. After a ____ 

A family dinner at Anjappar

The fourth meet 29-April-2019

After having met at Hema’s place, we went to Cafe Coffee Day, Medavakkam, Chennai. It was funny that they didn’t have a single variety of tea that Manoj wanted. Finally, he settled for the green tea. At least we thought it was a healthy choice. We had a long chat along with my coffee ☕. As we started speaking and sipping our drinks, Manoj realized that the green tea was a really bad choice. He then decided to never have green tea again 😁

After coffee, we took a ride to the beach in ECR. As we were about to get out of the car, I started complaining like a little kid about the salty air, sticky skin, and the frizzy hair if we go and stand at the beach. And I never expected, but you did get a little annoyed. Somehow, I showed some cuteness and dragged him towards the beach. This was somewhere near Pannaiyur where there were only a few other people taking an evening stroll.  

As we stood there looking at the horizon in silence, I felt shy and had no clue what to say. The more you insisted that I talk about something, the harder my struggle became to think of something. I wanted to talk to you, but never could come up with the words.

The fifth and last meet of the year – 30-April-2019

We developed this strong connection in this short time, and we were already fearing the emotion of missing each other once we are long distance. It was painful and we are already hoping to be united again. It was with a heavy heart that I bid adieu to my dear “partner in crime”. Hiding my tears, I went back home hoping that Manoj would have a safe journey back to Italy. Things always don’t happen the way we want it to be.

Manoj’s return trip, as painful as it already was, got even more stressful. His connecting flight got canceled unexpectedly. After the 2019 Balakot Airstrike, the Pakistani airspace was closed which we had no idea of. As a consequence, the connecting flight from Delhi-Milan was canceled and re-routed with a 24 hour delay. 

Later the same day, he was made to accommodate in one of a not-so-bad hotel in Delhi with poor internet connection. After hearing this agonizing news, with more tears, I wanted to fly to Delhi and be with him. I even checked flights. He sounded really stresses out and sad. It sounded like he was breaking down and I had to be there with him. Anyway, things don’t always stay the same. The next day, he got a flight Delhi to Austria and we had the first ever video call during his layover at Vienna.         We were so happy to see each other again. Missing each other more. The next flight on the 2nd of May 2019 he flew from Austria and reached safely in Milan. I believed him when he said this trip from Chennai to Italy was the most stressful journey ever in his life. The next time we met, it was going to be the biggest day ever in our life. Looking forward to it.

The First Meet

The First Meet

Events, Experience

Hema and I first met each other on the 12th of April 2019 at a place which would have been the last place if we had the choice to pick it ourselves. It was a Hindu temple located in Chennai, a coastal city in Tamil Nadu, India. After a very quick acquaintance, we moved to a not so busy mall (Forum Vadapalani) nearby to really get to know each other.